You can always do the mail-in flash from Al at DynoFlash (www.dynoflash.com). From reading the above I would suggest the same I posted before:
-Turbo Timer (Your alarm you want has it built in)
-K&N Drop-in filter
-Cat/Turbo back exhaust
-JDM MR BOV
-Boost gauge & Pod
-MBC
-Than a mail-in flash
That will give you a lot of extra power and make a noticable difference even for the daily drive.

 

Mbc?

 

Manual Boost Controller
I suggest the Hallman RX or Forge.

 

Dridge- The filter should be there next week.

A BOV is a waste of money. One of the guys on this forum removed the air inlet from under the hood and top of the air box as sort of an open filter set up. He said you can hear the turbo alot better, so I'd look into that (probably somewhere on the DIY section or How to's). Otherwise, I would put a hallman mbc and a boost gauge on it.

 

A BOV is absolutely a waste of money... a replacement diverter valve is not... MR being the cheapest, best bang for the buck...

 

Yes, the bov is a waste of money. Take it from me. If you must hear that wooosh, then simply by an open element filter and mas adapter, the stock bov will be very audible. go to www.automotosports.com , they have a filter and adapter for like 60 beans. If this still isn't enough for you, purchase a full intake assembly (HKS/AEM/INJEN), and the bov will be much louder as the stock rubber pipe is replaced by a hard pipe. But don't change the bov, unless you plan on upping the boost (upwards of 22psi), you do not need a new one.