So I'm ordering eyelids and a spoiler.

Bottom line is, the eyelids are from Accolade, so heres the questions regarding those:
1. Do they come painted? if so in what color?
2. If they don't come painted, where do you get them painted? or do you do it yourself? How much does the paint job cost?

For the spoiler, its a carbon fiber middle and the side plates come "black"
1. does the black match? probably not right?
2. an evo 8 spoiler will fit the 2004 ralliart after two new holes right?

 

The eyelids come unpainted. Visit your local body shop to get them painted. They'll give you a price. It shouldn't be much.

As for the spoiler, correct, 2 holes, and no, it likely won't match. Have the body shop paint all 4 parts at the same time.

 

i wish you could order these things pre-painted

 

Body shops all seem to have the same painting $ rates, and I found painting tends to cost at least as much as the parts themselves did.

Based on my experience you should even more than double your original parts cost budget to account for paint and professional bodywork touch-ups to typically f***ed up Accolade parts.