Ok, i know what you're thinking... 'whyd you sell it in the first place?'

Well, i'm engaged, and to get money for our wedding, i sold the evo, bought two houses, and hope to turn one around and sell to make the equity and with that to pay off the wedding.

but i want an evo... i had the first black 03 in orlando. I loved every second of it. I let it go to prove to my woman that I would rather have her than anything else. It's true, but I still miss the evo very much.

i want to get an 05 or even a used 03-04 after our wedding.

Any former owners in the same pickle as me?

 

If thats what it took then you got more problems instore. If you had a love for the car or the automotive customizing thing and keeping you away from it is how you prove your love.... your owned already. But I hope u get an EVO soon!

 

word up on that. i got married kept the evo and the new house. you own two homes, you're in the market go take an equity line of credit out now and buy an evo before its too late.

 

..... And what did she give up to prove she loved you more than anybody else?

I once gave up a dream and lost myself. In my case, I very much regret not thinking through who I wanted to be. I blame myself for not taking control of who I was and tried to be who she wanted and didn't even see it happening, like a frog in a kettle. Death by domestication.

Any worthwhile mate will help their counterpart to become all that they are and want them to realize as many of their dreams as possible and visa-versa. I am not implying anything about your situation, but so often a man gives up who he is in order for the woman to realize their "white pickett fence and mini-van dream".

Having a family is about self sacrifice, don't fool yourself. The kids become the most important thing and rightfully so. Decide what your dream is. you can have both, but one will take precedense over the other, make sure it's the right one.

time for a beer

 

Hate to be raggin' on ya, man... but if a girl needed me to give up my car(s) just because of a wedding, there'd be no wedding. My girlfried -of almost 6 years, mind you- knows how much I love my cars and driving, racing them, and moding them.

She wouldn't dare try and take that away from me.

Sucks man, looks like you're learning the har way

 

Jeez guys, kinda harsh.

I'm not in the exact same situation, but I also screwed up on the side of "responsible" and bought a less expensive, less fun car because I was getting married, in the house market, ect...

Now I wish I'd bought that damn Evo!!

 

im sure he knows that she loves him just as much, lets give him the benefit of the doubt. congrats on the wedding and you can always get another evo, if your truly in love with each other then you shouldnt be looking back.
with that said...
if you really love your wife then you would give up your car for her
if you really love the evo then get it again!

 

Giving up your Evo for money is like selling your first born!

 

when is your wedding ?

 

how freaking much is that wedding and why are you paying for it?

 

um I thought the brides parents do the whole wedding thing? WTF?

 

I am getting married the summer of next year and just bought a new house too. I did get to keep the Evo though. Don't sweat it, keep the second house as long as possible and take the equity and pay for the wedding and hopefully a down payment or a large portion of the new Evo (or whatever you want).

Remind your fiance that you gave up the car you loved, and that after the wedding is payed for that you would like to get another car. She should be cool with that. BUT DO IT QUICKLY... stuff like a fence and a deck start right after weddings. Thats why I got wheels and tires before the wedding

Good luck to you!

 

I hope to be married one day. LOL.

 

You really are in a pickle but sometimes you must be willingly to sacriface your desires in order to get out of debt. Just wait a bit longer.

 

Ditto, but the kids should not be the priority. Many people make that mistake. Through it all, you and your spouse are the priority. The kids leave eventually only leaving you and your spouse. Since you've prioritiezed the kids, when they leave, you no longer really have a relationship to fall back on cuz you didn't work on that during the "kid era". Kids learn from watching you. They pick up on how you interact with each other and form their behaviors from it. They learn how a good relationship is supposed to be like, how they should behave in public and at home, etc. Work on your realtionship, not the kids. Check this... I never taught my daughter to read or asked her to ever. She always saw me reading mags, books, internet forums and she would ask me to read to her and I would. She's the best reader in her class now. My wife and I help each other and take turns doing chores. We never asked my daughter to do stuff, she sees us working and she wants to help too.