When I bought my car ($17K, 8001mi on it in 2001) I paid for everything TTL, ALL OF IT. I was living good rent free w/ my mom while making 22K/yr. Lets just say my relationship with mom and dad was less than perfect. Then I decided to move out to TX, more bills AND less pay Now BOTH mom and dad call me regularly to say hi, and shoot the sh*t, and they throw money at me "in case I need it". Respect and help only come with an adequate display of maturity.

 

Oh **** off a-hole this isn't the f'in stone ages anymore! Sometimes u can state your case till' you blue in the face & parents aren't hearing it ... that frustrating ... give the kid a break ***-wipe!

 

You told your parent to keep their mouth shut? I would get slapped silly. If you respect your parents your parents will respect you.

Oh yeah, you should keep your evo.

 

PePe ... sounds like you are doing the right thing, but your parents are very conservative and extremely overprotective ... and it also sounds like they are very narrow minded about the situation. Still, you are making it worse by yelling at them and calling them scumbags ... although I understand that it is VERY FRUSTRATING and we all tend to go overboard and vernt sometimes (I'm 30 years-old & my parents still don't get it)! Your best bet is to try and calmy state your case to them .... tell them that you are working your *** off and you would REALLY appreciate your space when you come home to drive your car ... tell them that the car is relaxation for you ... or way to release your stress/frustrations, etc. Your parents just don't see your point since they believe that the correct way to do things is to work all day and sleep at night ..... so surely you MUST be too tired to take the car out at night in their minds. They just can't see the logic in it, and they probably won't no matter what you say. Your best bet is to ... like I said, state your case ..... and if they still try to control your life ... then it will be time for you to move out on your own ... no matter how you have to do it. In fact, moving out in the very near future is probably a good idea ... but try and have some patience with your parents ... I understand that it is very hard to see eye to eye w/ them, but it's important that you act like a man and not get mad and pissy like a little ***** because they fail to see your point. Parents almost never get it - get used to it and move on. Good luck ... and don't sell your evo unless you need $ to move out -- final resort!

 

I'll buy ur evo...with that thing i bet you cant afford to live on your own with bills grocery and rent! so lemme help you out! how many mileage do you have on that thing...or hey better yet i'd trade my OZ to that and give you a lil money back to pay rent deposit and go home for less than $300 a month of car payments! I bet this will make you and your parents happy now that you're out of the house!

 

 

What Claudius said...



Very admirable for a young man these days... to bad being such a **** to your parents you live with makes it all for not. If you had a really bad relationship with, or abusive parents, you would have already left. So the few out trying to use that as an excuse for your actions can take that flying leap. You wouldn't have posted here and continued to discuss the matter if you were not looking for opinions on the situation and some sort of assessment of what happened. Well, count them up and see if you got your money's worth.

I've got 7 and 11 year old boys... the 11 year old bigger than most of you. I love them both to death, and would gladly give my life to preserve their's. 99% of parents would defend their children to the death. The 11 year old was at first my stepson. Then after tens of thousands of dollars of litigation, I adopted him as my own. He has always been a better-behaved child than my 7 year old. Not to long ago, I caught him saying something similar as you did to his mother... he bounced twice on his ***... My wife immediately looked at me and said that is enough. She looked at him with tears in her eyes, shook her head, and left the room. All I said was even as you disrespected your mother, she still defended you. No one will ever love you more than her, remember that always.


It's not that you disagreed... it's that you disrespected the relationship, and your parents home with your attitude. You always have the option of leaving their home, however, if you can't learn to deal respectfully with authority now, you got a real shady career future in this world. You had the oppertunity to call a "sit down" right there and then and respectfully confronted them about about allowing you to function as an adult (which reguardless of attitude, you are). In stead, you chose to start a pissing match. I spend a lot of time in the court house with people like that... people who always shoot themselves in the ***. I really hope your not one of those people.

 

Zeus, you hitting him or knocking him down or whatever you did to make him bounce twice "on his ***" proved what? That you are a bigger man than him? That you were mad? Have you no other ways of expressing yourself other than to hit or push people? You sir, are pretty sad. There are too many people like "you" around the world that believe hitting people when they are wrong in "their" eyes is right. I can see why he would have hated you at that point if that is how you solve problems. Pitiful... and to say you have apart in our justice system shows exactly how badly we need to take another look at the "losers" that are involved in the justice system.

 

...and your way of thinking way to far in the other direction has landed us in the mess we are in now... go find your "happy place"...

 

ooohhh Ohhhh the person who gets the last word in or the last punch in must be the winner, eh? that's really sad.

People, Respect Your Parents, Respect Your Neighbors, Teach your children by example.

The Ten Commandments Save a lot of people.

 

GUYS-GUYS~!!!! Let's get back on the subject of our cars here ..... if the kid needs more advice ... he should seek out professional counsling .... enough is frickin enough already! ImportPePe .... try to discuss this with your parents professionally, and if they cannot, then ask if they are interested in speaking about it in front of a qualified professional. If the problem persists ... or if they decline, then it's probably time to move the heck out. There really isn't much more that we can say

 

Too funny. I used to think EXACTLY the same thing. Then I turned 35, had two kids of my own and realized that I was the person who didn't "get it".

 

... think I was 31


Back on topic, keep the car if you can have a sit down with your parents without throwing gas on the fire... you know, sorry for what I said, but even though I'm your son, I'm not a child anymore etc, etc...

 

Well I'm 30, have one kid, and have accepted the fact that no two people think exactly alike ... family or not. By not getting it ... I meant that my parents still don't agree with some of the things I do, or the decisions I make, mainly because I tend to take more chances or live on the edge a bit more than they ever did, etc. I have a feeling that everything I put my pop through will come back to be 10x harder with my son Glad you figured things out btw ..... too bad it took you 35+ years eh Does that put you in the category of the "typical males never grow up syndrome" that women typically talk about

 

It goes two ways,# 1 your parent should repect the fact that you ask them first(I HOPE)since you live under there roof,on the flip sde you may be being tested,try understanding from there point of vew that anything can happen,an accident,getting car jack or herased bybthe cop to the point they will do anything to inpound your car.If you sell t let me know-BUT-think through,put your self in the eye of you parents,if you can truly do that,then you will understand where they are coming from.