Car is running... went thru it this morning, was able to finally connect to my ECU. I have power to all of the dash parts and headlights. Just need new ballasts.

The final 2 ingredients end up being a shot alternator, which i still have and my COP setup was blown thus no spark no start lol. I was chalking that up to the ECU not interfacing properly, but you dont get spark when the coils suck either lol.

Thanks for all of your suggestions and help.

Hopefully this thread will end up in someones search string with some useful info.